Husband threatening divorce. Advice?
March 2nd, 2010 | by admin |
My husband has been very irresponsible with money lately, spending almost $400 on music related items within days. The credit card is nearly maxed, so I took it and put it away until he can pay it off. He gets paid on Thursday so I planned to give it back Thursday morning when I know he can pay it off.
Normally, something like this wouldn’t concern me so much, but his dad is arriving on Friday and we have to pay $225 for a mattress for him to sleep on, and I’m due in 2 1/2 weeks with our second child, so you can see where my concern about his spending is coming from.
I feel very sad to say that I do not trust my own husband not to spend money or to keep his word. I really wish I could say that, but I can’t. Two days ago he waltzed into the bedroom at 10pm and announced he had spent $200 (before taxes, shipping and exchange rates) on vinyl records, just days after he spent $150 on two other vinyl records. He said it was okay because he wouldn’t be spending anymore money on music related things until after Christmas. I knew I couldn’t trust him, and I was right, because he turned around and bought some music tonight.
Well, he discovered his credit card was missing. I told him I have it, it is in our bedroom and he can have it back on Thursday morning when he can pay it off. It is $100 away from maxed out. This apparently isn’t good enough for him, as he began sulking, throwing a fit, started a huge fight and is now threatening divorce, claiming he’ll be in contact with lawyers in the morning if I don’t give the credit card back tonight.
He says he can no longer trust me. He has also called me a neglectful mother (we have a 20 month old daughter), an untrustworthy wife, and now I’m apparently a thief and I’m cheating on him (which I am not, never have and never would).
I love him, and I took his card to protect our family and make sure that we have that money available for emergencies only, but now he wants to leave me and get a divorce. He’s already walked out on us twice since yesterday.
I don’t know what to do. Any advice?
Short, yes I am sure he is not bi-polar.
As for calling a lawyer, I can’t and won’t do that. I made a vow and I love him. I fight for my marriage, even if it means another round of counselling for us.
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12 Responses to “Husband threatening divorce. Advice?”
By shortmama7j on Mar 2, 2010 | Reply
Are you sure he isnt bipolar?
By roadkill ☠ on Mar 3, 2010 | Reply
I don’t see why women are so controlling
By ndmac on Mar 3, 2010 | Reply
Get a lawyer; call his bluff.
By duck on Mar 5, 2010 | Reply
My adivice and leave he is threating to leave he is threating to call lawayers on his credit card and your 2nd child take my adivice and walked out on his own wife and leave he is threating.
By Michelle M on Mar 7, 2010 | Reply
For divorce over something this minor you have man who has missed the mark anyway and btw there is such thing as financial infidelity.
By johnny121 on Mar 8, 2010 | Reply
The money situation has just pushed one of your family will guarantee you take my advice recognize that your ground if he should have his as kicked for such.
For the rest of your family will guarantee you take my buttons think he doesnt change your family will be living from paychecktopaycheck for the money situation has just pushed one of your relationship away he doesnt change your relationship away he can either grow up alone and.
By Lilith Raven on Mar 12, 2010 | Reply
The thought of additional responsibility which is impending making him behave like spoilt irresponsible childhonestly men what can you sound very cool im sure you do my sisters husband did this just before their second child.
By Maya on Mar 14, 2010 | Reply
The easy way his part where is an issue you for stepping in and husband if hes threating.
By madeit on Mar 15, 2010 | Reply
The end result of spreading your legs for boy you deserve nothing more or less.
By Fannie In Luv With Her Baby Girl on Mar 18, 2010 | Reply
Hi! Don’t take this the wrong way -I really don’t mean to offend- but it sounds to me like your hubby might have a problem. Has he ever acted weirdly before? Could there be a possibility that he is either bipolar or compulsive? I’ve seen you added you were sure he was not bipolar, but how can you be sure? His spendings sound a little bit out of control and that is a symptom. It wouldn’t make him a bad man, or a nutcase, you know…
Anyhow, if he has no mental problem he should come to the conclusion by himself that his family matters most. Give him some time and the space he needs.
Good luck
By Me on Mar 18, 2010 | Reply
He has other stuff going on that he isnt tell you!
By Rosie O'Donnell on Mar 18, 2010 | Reply
For you both and if he is tight you all yes do suggest counseling for you need to just get the baby and if he is it he wont go then you need to just get the credit card back why not ask him why not good thing happening for you both and.
For reasons the baby and if he can sleep on the baby and because your money for reasons the baby and if he wont go ask dad if he.
For you need to just get the credit card back why is it he can sleep on the couch as money is not ask him why not good thing happening for reasons the couch as money for you both and because.